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Musings and mindfulness

Need to be a step ahead…?

Needing to be a step ahead and out-smarting others is exhausting but some of us feel unsafe unless we have ‘out-thought’ and are therefore ready to ‘out-maneouvre’ others.

The choices available to us are:
1. to be permanently exhausted, on high-alert, and on ‘maneouvre’
2. to feel permanently frightened and at risk from the world

Neither is conducive to our mental health or to a loving caring authentic relationship…

I am me – by Virginia Satir (1964)

I AM ME… In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine. Because I alone chose it – I own everything about me. My body, my feelings my mouth, my voice, all my actions. Whether they be to others or myself – I own my fantasies…

Burnout – the modern pandemic

“Stop, give up hope, keep the faith” – words spoken by Dr Dina Glouberman during her ‘Joy of Burnout’ workshop this week. I repeated them to a friend over a socially-distanced sandwich and she exclaimed “What do you mean? Without hope we have nothing.” Further musing ensued…

It’s okay, I’m the grown up, I’ve got this.

While training as a psychotherapist a colleague shared with me that whenever she had to write an assignment she used to stick a photo of her as a child on the frame of her computer screen. The idea is a powerful one and I have reflected on it many times when working with clients through anxiety. Often we feel the effects of anxiety without knowing what it’s about…

About Me

I am fascinated by humans, nature and human nature. What makes each of us the way we are. What makes us fabulous in the eyes of others, and not so – and what makes us fabulous in our own eyes – and not so. What makes us do the things we do – when we don’t always want to – and most significantly what stops us from doing the things that we do want to do…?

Many talented people in the course of history have found the time and patience to explore the human condition. I learn from them – Carl Jung, Eric Berne, John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth to name a few and I aim here to put my own experience as an individual and a therapist for others to reflect at will.